Know your worth

Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than you deserve. 

Never settle for anything less than you deserve. 
What a complicated, complex, and challenging phrase. We often evaluate our worth based upon how we are treated by others. And I’m not just referring to a significant other, but also our friends, co-workers, bosses, and even family members. But how does someone even determine what they deserve? And if we don’t know what it is that we deserve, then how could we possibly know if we’re settling for less? 
There is only one common factor that comes to mind when I think about my relationships with others, and that’s me. The most important relationship that you can have is the one you have with yourself (and God). In order to form healthy and functional relationships with others you have to love yourself, and I mean every part of yourself. Once you can accept yourself for who you are, you’ll know your worth and exactly what it is that you deserve. One of my favorite bloggers, Carly Heitlinger (College Prepster), recently posted twenty little facts about herself. In light of this post, I felt that it was appropriate to share twenty little, quirky things (that I love) about myself!
ONE // I love anything and everything yellow, especially sunflowers!!
TWO // Goldfish and wine are my guilty pleasures.
THREE // My family dynamics are crazy and I wouldn’t do anything to change it!
FOUR // I’m obsessed with the Marvel movies…helloooo Iron Man and Thor!
FIVE // I enjoy solving math riddles and brain teasers…I’ve never lost a race of Sudoku. Can you say nerd?
SIX // I know how to create/manipulate codes for webpages.
SEVEN // Not a day goes by that I don’t miss dancing and playing soccer.

EIGHT // I hardly ever watch TV but if I do, chances are I am watching NCIS, Criminal Minds, or Law & Order SVU. 
NINE // I do not like wearing make-up. Seriously, why was it even invented?! 
TEN // There is a special place in my heart for children with disabilities.
ELEVEN // I HATE RUNNING and working out…but I have recently joined a gym so hopefully I can find a happy medium before bikini season.
TWELVE // My family travels to a new city every summer, and I hope to one day have the opportunity to visit every MLB stadium. 
THIRTEEN // I hate coffee, but I LOVE peppermint hot chocolate!
FOURTEEN // I cannot stand the smell of Chinese food.
FIFTEEN // I used to have really long hair and was once a brunette.
SIXTEEN // Two of my favorite bible verses can be found in 2 Corinthians (4:18 & 5:7) and I have a little, precious guardian angel named Taylor. 
SEVENTEEN // My vertigo gets worse the older I get, but I dream of one day sailing around the Boston Harbor.
EIGHTEEN // I rather open a new box of cereal than eat from a box that is less than halfway full.
NINETEEN // Wonderwall by Oasis is my favorite song. I prefer Jake Coco’s cover over the original though.
TWENTY // I am not ashamed of who I am. I am proud of what I have accomplished and I love the person that I am today. I know my value and exactly what I have to offer others. It’s true, those who know me know that this list could go on and on…I am quirky, silly, blunt, and even broken. But even with my faults I am worth loving.
My move to Charlotte has been an eye-opening experience to say the least, and in the past week my faith has been tested more than ever. But I will always walk by faith, even when I cannot see.
So ladies, don’t settle for anything less than you deserve. God made you and will never abandon you! His love is eternal, even when we truly are undeserving. Always remember that no one but you can determine your worthiness, and the first step is to love yourself.

10 comments on “Know your worth

  1. Alyssa! By far one of my favorite post you have written! I always love learning something new about you and am so happy that you have opened up with us all 🙂 You are an amazing person, wonderful friend, so loving and very honest (which I think is so important in any friendship/relationship)! I can't tell you how thankful I am that you are now living in Charlotte and can't wait to see where God takes our friendship! I love you AJ!!!

  2. Love all of these things about you!! We're all different and that's why meeting new people can teach us so much. I'm right there with you on goldfish and wine, but I'm also addicted to sour gummy worms. And I love crime shows on TV, too. Such a great post – I loved getting to know more about you.

  3. This is such a meaningful post. More people need to learn to love themselves. Thank you so much for sharing!!!

  4. Love love love this post, Applejacks!! Every single word of this is SO TRUE. I have loved getting to know you (and your quirks) over the past few months! I also love the idea that we shouldn't let anyone be apart of our lives that treats us poorly or even less than we deserve – you, my dear, deserve the best!!!

  5. This post is so thoughtful and inspirational! Thanks for sharing!!

    I always love finding other bloggers who like crime shows, marvel movies, riddles, and who aren't afraid to be themselves. It makes blogging so much more fun! Can't wait to read your next post!

    {Anchors and Stars}

  6. Love! You are so confident and I love the messages you give to us! And Law & Order SVU is my favorite, and I too have a special place in my heart for children with disabilities, my siblings both have one! Dreaming of a day I can travel to Charlotte and meet you. 🙂

  7. I started my first year as a teacher in September and it has been one of the most difficult things I've ever done. It is incredibly difficult to walk on to a new faculty where everyone knows each other and no one really tells you how to do simple things like log in the computer. I thought I was going to influence and inspire my students by October but making a difference in teaching takes time. It can be a really humbling experience to go from college where you have a ton of leadership roles to being the little fish. I forgot how long it takes for people to respect you more and trust you. Although my first year has been hard so far, knowing that I made a difference in one of my students lives when they have no one to turn to has been worth more than I can explain. I have a class of 22, 15 of whom are boys and I never really thought my boys truly connect with me. But I know that even the little things like sending them reminders for work are appreciated. I've learned to take myself a little less seriously, have fun, remember I am there for the kids not to make sure I have a position next year. Every day is different and needs to be taken with a grain of salt. When youre stressed, take time and do what you need to do to de stress. I wish you the best of luck, believe in yourself and the rest will fall into place 🙂

  8. Love this post! It was so nice to get to know more about you! Wine is one of my guilty pleasures too. 🙂

  9. I couldn't agree more about not settling. If you're going to live life, you have to commit to living it full out and on your terms. And who doesn't love sunflowers? They're just gorgeous to look at. Not to mention the delicious seeds you can get from them.

  10. Alyssa, I just nominated you for the Liebster Award on my newest blog post . I really hope you'll check it out and respond on your blog. Thanks so much for your time, and congratulations!(

    Poised and Preppy

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