Ladies, I don’t know about you, but I have a love/hate relationship with first dates. There is something about meeting someone for the first time that is so exciting to me…and completely nerve-racking at the same time! Where should you go? What should you wear? What should you say? These are just a few of the hundreds of questions that fill my mind as I attempt to prepare for a first date. Will I like him? Will he like me? AHHH! Hopefully today I can loosely assist you with some of those questions…
Where should you go?
When planning a first date, most guys will ask you if you have a preference on where to go. My advice: be honest. If you are uncomfortable eating an entire meal in front of someone new, then don’t suggest grabbing dinner. You could recommend a wine bar or a cozy coffee shop. These type of intimate settings allow you to focus on getting to know your date (not on if there is any food in your teeth)! On the other hand, if you’re like me and don’t mind getting dinner or dessert on a first date, try a restaurant that neither of you have been to before. You never know…it could become y’all’s “place” 😉
Here’s a list of some of my favorite places in Charlotte: Nikko Sushi Bar, Heist Brewery, Amelie’s, The Wine Loft, Fahrenheit
What should you wear?
I have a hard enough time deciding what to wear to work everyday, let alone to a first date. Obviously your options will vary depending on where you are going and the weather, but my advice: dress comfortably. Now don’t get carried away! I am not condoning wearing yoga pants to the bar (yes you can laugh, but that’s the first thing that comes to my mind when I think about being comfortable)! But, you shouldn’t have to worry about things “peaking” out while you’re on a date because as I mentioned before, that shouldn’t be your focus! Choose an outfit that complements your figure and that YOU feel beautiful in…a maxi dress like the one pictured above is normally my summer go-to. Also, try to wear a piece of jewelry that is unique and sentimental. That way if the conversation is starting to dwindle you have something that you can talk about! I normally wear my Pandora charm bracelet or my braille necklace from Jewelry in Braille (pictured below).
What should you say?
Put a computer in front of me, I could type until my fingers fall off. Put a cute boy in front of me, my brain turns to mush. My advice: talk about your passions. Don’t be afraid to show your date a genuine part of your life. One thing I’ve come to realize is that once I start talking about something I really love I can never stop! Also, try to use probing questions to find out what your date is passionate about and make sure you listen! Remember to try and listen as much as you talk and don’t
If there are any guys reading this and you really enjoyed your time with your date, please tell her! Don’t hesitate throwing in a flirty, “hope to see you soon” either!
Will I like him? Will he like me?
How many ladies out there are guilty of replaying an entire first date in their mind? I know I am. My advice: try not to overanalyze. Take things slow. There’s a chance a second date may never occur and that’s OK. Rejection is an unfortunate component of dating and to some extent life. However, that shouldn’t deter you from going on dates! If a guy can’t see what a catch you are, then it’s his loss. My bet is that he thought you were absolutely wonderful and is looking forward to seeing you again soon 🙂